The first Pain

To administer pain to a person takes a lot of skill and experience. One would claim it is an art and the whip and cane are your brushes. You paint the subject with welts, marks and bruises for shorter and longer times, and if you are anything like me you proudly look at your result with great joy and excitement.

The whole experience in inflicting pain to a slave is a complete one; it is on so many levels and touches so many feelings inside of you. The sight of the slave incapable to escape, the slight fear in her eyes, the scent of her when the pain is manifesting in her mind and the endorphin start to kick in, the feel of the cane or the flog or the whip, the almost slow motion moments when the whip hits the flesh and the one second of delay until the pain reached the slave's mind is all so beautiful, poetic if you want.

For the slave it should be as intoxicating, if you have trained her right, and of course you have, haven’t you? The association between pleasure and pain is mind-bending for the slave or so it should be. She should welcome pain, embrace it as her best friend and learn to harness it fully until she cum in a explosive orgasm. But only if you want it, delivering pain can be punishment and harmful and bitter sweet too. It is you as her Owner and guardian that decide that, and only you.

When you are about to hang her up and you are taking down the whip for the first time, you should have some certain rules in mind. First and foremost you must never be angry; you should always do it for the right reason. If it is punishment you are after, the slave certainly deserve it, I’m sure, but you must never do it out of anger, you better calm down before you do more harm than good. The slave look to you for leadership and guidance, she looks up to you as she looks up to her own father and that trust must never be broken by a hasty conducted punishment where the slave might not understand the reason or the rage. Punishment must always be thought through; the slave must understand why she is being punished, the punishment must be just and fit the indiscretion and she must accept her punishment before it can take place. I will talk more about punishment in a later post.

Another rule is to know the slave and her current limit. You need to remember that a slave and especially women have certain days when they are more sensitive than other days. You need to know her experience in handling pain and her ability to focus on the pain to make it more durable.

Once you have started you need to be aware of how to administer it properly and not just whack away with your whip or your cane. Every stroke most count. That means you must let it take some time before the next hit. The purpose is not just to make a welt or a red bottom, no, it is not, the slave must have time to process it, feel it and in the end accept it. By accepting the pain she accept her situation as a slave and by that your superiority and ownership over her. Isn’t that what we want?

When the slave starts to get use to the pain she can start to drift off, into sub space, like some cleverly want to call it, it is when the slave is no longer aware of the pain, she has shielded her from your treatment and that is not what we want. The purpose is to get control of her and/or punish her, and she cannot get away that easy. There are times when I just want to whack away and beat my slave up, just for the thrill of it and that is the only time I allow her to drift off like that. I should also tell you that I only do that with experienced slaves that are masochist by nature. To prevent a slave from feeling her pain I use to let her count the strokes out loud and by doing that you have an exercise in speech training as well. It could sound like “Sire, ONE, Sire, thanks you, Sire, can I have another one Sire.”. This whole sentence is always hard to learn and they forget it all the time in the beginning. But once learned it sticks and you have a very obedient slave who will start and end every sentence with Sire. Most effective, I would say.

There are some areas on the body you must never hit with blunt force, i.e. cane, whip or other hard object, and that is on the lower back where the kidneys are. Always stay away from there; also never hit the head or the neck. The rest is up for a beating but every part has its limits and if you don’t know what you are doing, stay on the butt, it is always safe there.

When you are in the middle of it all and enjoying yourself immensely as you should, take a moment and look at your slave who is now in pain and agony just for you, she is taking this because you want it and because she wants to be a good slave to you. She is the heroine in the room, not you, even if you are the one who is in control. Never forget this, ever.

When the slave is starting to reach her limits it is time to talk her down if it has been a hard session. She needs to be hold and told that she has been a good slave to you, that she is being brave and that you are proud of her. Most of all she need to accept that this is how it should be and always will be, by accepting this she is accepting you as her owner and caregiver. This is most important so don’t forget to do this. In a later post I will go into details in how to train a slave for pain. Thanks for reading this. As always comments are welcome.